Driving to Reno

My wife and I go on frequent adventures. This week, we are in Reno, Nevada looking for a home to move to next month. Driving here was fairly uneventful, as one might imagine a drive down 300 miles of Interstate 80 in the middle of nowhere would be, but there were some things even yesterday that this lesson can apply to. I'll share them briefly, but don't let me make you believe that the drive was awful. For the most part, it was pretty great.
Somewhere in the rural desert, we were talking about music. My wife was remembering an experience she had as a child with music and I stated a differing opinion. She was displeased with this and the next thirty minutes didn't involve any talking between the two of us.
In Reno, we located a restaurant to eat at. As we exited off Interstate 80, we discovered that everywhere in the city center is under construction, and I mean everywhere. It probably didn't help that there is some big event happening downtown this week, either. At any rate, the address ends up being in a casino, which I had no desire to make an attempt to explore. Driving through the (massive) parking lot, I was paying attention to not hitting anyone while she was making valiant attempts to locate a new place to eat. Having never been here before, I had no idea where I was going. This coupled with the dumb public bus drivers and road construction made me very angry, to the point where she gave up trying to be friendly. Some stonewalling and other things listed in our text happened in both of these.
What is stonewalling? I don't know if you've ever been in an argument that was followed by the "silent treatment," but I have been on both the giving and receiving end of it.
In both of these instances, which happened yesterday, we both got angry and probably did things we ought not to. That is going to happen in marriage. It's hard living with someone 24/7, though it's less hard than it was on my mission because unlike my companion my wife is super attractive and I got to choose her myself. The problem with marriages, from what I've seen, isn't that couples have little spurts like this, but that they don't get over them. This could be for multiple reasons, but I believe that if both partners try their hardest to arrive at a diplomatic solution for their problems, many marriages could be saved or experience a higher quality of living.

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