Meshing Hobbies

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In this lesson, I read a story by Martha Arnell (don't ask me who she is, I have no idea) talking about her relationship with her husband. She wrote that she tries to be a cheerleader for her husband when he goes hunting and fishing. This made me think about my situation with my wife. My wife and I have way different hobbies. She is into photography (she does it professionally) and over planning everything. I'm into amateur radio, meteorology, and other type natural sciences. She likes things that make her feel. I like things that make me think. She wants to be a home body. I want to get out and explore. So how do we make it work? We try.
I have taken to second shooting for my wife. I'm not that great at it, but with Photoshop she makes due. I've come to enjoy it, though I mostly get distracted with the landscape and such. She has taken to taking pictures of mountains (I'm more of a nature explorer). To this day, the only picture of a mountain she has liked was of the Teton Range in Wyoming. Despite her displeasure of her own skills of that kind of photography, she still does it.
I remember thinking that spouses should be similar in many ways. Sure, my wife and I have similarities, but we are vastly different. In fact, since being married I've discovered that many couples are. And that's okay. The important thing about marriage is to have a common end goal. For my wife and I, and many in the Church, that is the Celestial Kingdom. We met a family on our cruise this Spring who didn't have any kids, but shared a common goal and had been married for a long time.
Goals are important. They give you something to work toward, whether you have the same hobbies or not. Common goals unite couples and help them work through the hard times.
Sorry this one is short. I'm writing it from the side of a lake in Idaho while I work.
Photo: My wife took this picture of me while we were shooting a wedding in Grand Teton National Park, Wyoming.

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